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Its been a while I know and for that I am once again sorry but I can not remain quiet anymore. I wanted to write this blog a long time ago but I haven’t felt like I was able to for a few reasons, but since hearing the story of a young woman’s life cut short... apologies I meant to say ANOTHER woman’s life cut short, I’ve had her name on my mind for days now and it has really prompted me to speak up. I’m very opinionated and firm in most of my beliefs but always 110% open to hearing other peoples. I’m all for fairness and equality, I believe everyone has the right to love, be loved and to live their life happy and safe. I’m strongly against the death penalty because I don’t believe in blood for blood/life for life and yes I am one of those people who is not entirely sold on ALL vaccinations. But that that’s not really my point right now. I also know that both men and woman can be raped, beaten, attacked, bullied, abused and much more. Both men and woman can be a victim just as easily they can be perpetrators too. I know many men are raped by woman and men just as much as woman are raped by other woman and men. These are not uncommon statistics, we know they are true. However, in the general scheme of life woman are undeniably considered inferior to men. In fact for a very long time we were thought so little of that we were only good for child bearing and child raising, cleaning, cooking, first aid and satisfying our husbands. That’s it! But do you ever wonder how much that has really changed? Let me give you a really quick rundown of the top 10 female dominated industries and see if you can notice similarities...
So basically, the top female dominated careers include, caring for children, elderly, the hurt, and animals, educating, cooking and leisure. Hmmm doesn’t sound so different does it? Now, it makes you wonder why males (not all of them but some), still see females as people who should be caring for and pleasing men. It’s no wonder no means yes, maybe means yes and whatever means yes too. Eurydice Dixon was 22, Qi Yu was 28, Jill Meagher was 29, Michelle Pogmore was 13, Maria Korp was 50, Darcy Freeman was 4, Rebecca Wild was 16, Jessie Fullerton was 22, Karly Pearce-Stevenson was 20 and her daughter Khandalyce was 2. Just a small handful of the endless number of woman who were attacked, raped and or killed by strange men or people they loved like partners and fathers over the last 10 years at least. 4 our of the small list of females I just listed, were far to young to protect themselves, or to be responsible for their own safety. Darcy’s father threw her off a bridge and she drowned. Jessie Fullerton was only trying to save Rebecca. Eurydice’s and Jill where entertainers and only minutes from being home! So telling woman everywhere to “be careful” and “take responsibility for your own safety” is the biggest load of shit, because half of us are to young to do so and majority of the rest already do that. Eurydice’s did that, she txted her partner, she seemingly stuck to well lit streets and thought an open field would give her view of any danger. She was probably looking around every now and then to, as nearly all woman do. There is only so much we can do ourselves. We can take self defence classes, we can teach our girls to take care, we can carry perfume and keys around to make sure we have a weapon and we can call our friends or family to stay connected. But NONE OF THIS, none of it will stop a man from knocking us over the head from behind, pinning us down, raping us, stabbing us, shooting us, strangling us. You don’t know the real fear women experience until you’ve experienced it yourself. Many woman take all these precautions just from hearing stories like Eurydice’s, Jill’s and many more. We do these things as a initial line of defence. But until you’ve had to come face to face with someone who wants to do you harm, you just can’t comprehend how vastly different it becomes. You go from worried and cautious, just making sure and playing it safe. To looking over your shoulder every 2 seconds despite knowing that nobody was there LITERALLY a moment ago, anxiety... CRIPPLING anxiety, to go anywhere near or remotely close to where IT happened. You carry more than keys, you never EVER risk having headphones in and you always call someone regardless. Your actions no longer are those of a cautious person who sometimes feels uneasy, they become actions of a scared and helpless victim. But you know what I say to that? I am fucking sick of feeling like the victim, I’m sure every other woman is to. We should NOT have to be afraid of the shadow approaching from behind only to realise its a late night runner or just someone walking their dog. We should not have to do a double take of an object in the distance second guessing if it’s a person or an just a bin or bush. We should feel comfortable to walk home in gorgeous and revealing dresses because we are confident and empowered woman, without the fear some guy seeing us as a free for all. We shouldn’t have to be so scared to live life. I know the pain myself because I too have found myself frozen still in fear, having to come face to face with someone who means to harm me, again and again and again. Despite knowing in my mind that he is not actually there, but one bad experience turned into an endless loop of a scary movies that I couldn’t turn off. I will not go into detail because it is not just my story to tell, but I will tell you this. I do not know his name, I did not see his face and I don’t know where he lives or where he came from because he was 16. But he definitely saw! I will leave you with this thought... Woman are already doing everything and more than what they should, to protect themselves so we need to start looking more at the perpetrators and less at the victims. Teach your kids to be safe, he’s definitely, teach your girls and boys that their body is theirs and nobody else’s. Teach them all those things, but teach them to be strong and assertive, not passive and scared. DO NOT let your sons grow up seeing woman as objects, being disrespectful to ANYONE, hitting or abusing or bullying anyone. There are numerous signs as a child grows up that suggests they may not exactly have the best intentions toward woman. Even more when they are men. So how about we start teaching boys and girls that NO means ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NOT! Because I for one am so sick and tired of the world blaming woman for the action of sick and twisted men. Aimee lee xoxo “It’s no wonder - NO means YES”
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