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Hey there. I'm sure if you are reading this, then chances are, you are at least a little bit like me and you don't like the labels society puts on people now days. Let me tell you the labels i like: 50% of my favorite makeup label, $20 jumper reduced to $8 label, my favorite chocolate having an "All new low prices" label.\ Let me tell you the labels i DON'T like: Gay, Lesbian, Bi. Now don't get my words twisted please! If you are a man who knows 100% they are completely gay and they only like men... Then great. Same for women. That means you know who you are and who you like. What i don't like about labels is the pressure behind them from society. Ive been doing a lot of soul searching the past few months, probably more than i ever have these past 10 years, before i essentially "Came out" as pansexual. When trying to define how i felt about my sexuality i came across the "Label" Pansexual which in layman's terms means "GENDER BLIND" similar but not the same as bi sexual. At first i thought to myself that it was totally great and that i had the freedom to choose who i liked whenever i liked someone. So if i liked women at the time, then i liked women (But i wasn't LESBIAN) and if i liked guys then i simply liked guys (But i wasn't STRAIGHT). I know in my heart that i like women, if I'm being honest here I've probably known this since i was about 13 (If you've read my other blogs you may have read this already). I struggled from that young age trying to figure out if i was lesbian or straight or bi sexual, as that's all id ever known. If you like women you are Lesbian, if you like men you are straight and if you like both you are Bi sexual. But if i were to come out and say it... if i were to say "I am lesbian", I'm not afraid of what people will think of me personally, what i am afraid of is the judgement and the whispers that will come if the time comes that i ever want to be with a man. "Oh but you're a lesbian, you cant like men?" "You cant just pick and choose if you're lesbian or straight... Pick one" "How can you be a "LESBIAN" and still like men" "Lesbians don't find men attractive" I have been discussing this particular issue with women who are lesbian, bi sexual, Pansexual etc and they have all said that there is a difference between finding someone physically attractive and appealing to the eye, and wanting an intimate sexual relationship with someone. For example, you may be a vegetarian and see some really yummy beef lasagne, but it doesn't mean you will eat meat just because it looks good haha. This didn't entirely clear up my dilemma and that's totally fine, as someone once said to me "You'll never know unless you try" and i take that into great consideration in my journey. I think that we all have freedom and to have it means having the freedom to choose your own label, or for the need of one at all. So, by now some of you are probably asking yourself "Is she lesbian or what is she?" and all i will say to that is... If you have to ask yourself that kind of question then you did not grasp the concept of this blog post. #IDontNeedALabel Aimee xoxo "Don't Poison your mind by stressing over labels, its Harley worth it!!!"
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